Trust
My favourite state of mind at the moment is trust. Having faith that all is well. Believing that everything happens for a reason. Knowing that things are gonna work out – for me, for humanity, for the planet. Not always an easy place to access, but well worth the mindful effort.
This feeling of trusting life grows with every hardship that is overcome. The increasing flow of insights clears my mind. Peacefulness comes from experiencing things working out, even effortlessly and synchronistically. Trusting takes a lot of surrendering the ego and re-connecting to the calm core. So far everything in my life has worked out exactly as supposed to. That’s how I choose to see it.
This doesn’t mean that life won’t feel chaotic, difficult and heart-breaking at times. It also doesn’t mean that I will give away the power over my own life. It means that I see myself as a part of a bigger whole where all things have purpose. My free will, my choice and my responsibility directs my experience of reality. Some things I can affect, some I can’t, but I can always choose how I react.
I remember to be thankful, because gratefulness keeps on giving. I have my hopes and dreams. I know that if I get out of my own (ego’s) way, there is an even bigger universal force (within and without) that may exceed my expectations if I let it.
Stories
You might feel like the ones holding you back are other people. But your beliefs about what others are gonna think and say are just stories you tell yourself.
As the quote that has been attributed to many sources says: ”What other people think of you is none of your business.”
The only one holding yourself back is you.
Process properly
Break free from the prison of your mind:
Be aware of what you let affect you. Be conscious about what resonates with you. Use a gentle inner voice. Be mindful about what thoughts you play on repeat. Question where your thought patterns come from. Be in the now. Meditate.
Get out of your head and into your body. Focus on your feet. Unclench your jaw. Relax your forehead. Move aimlessly through dance. Feel your heart.
Many times when we have racing thoughts that we can’t make sense of, it is because we try to rationalize feelings. Thinking about feelings is not the same as feeling them.
Give yourself some downtime, don’t distract yourself or numb out. However uncomfortable it may be, the way to properly process and let feelings come and go is by feeling them.
Pack wisely
If we don’t know why we hold certain beliefs and we don’t question our thought patterns, perhaps it’s not very wise to carry them with us everywhere.
Like those unworthiness issues that have been passed on for generations – what are they even good for? Maybe it’s time to take a final look at them before throwing them away.
When we pack our suitcase before going on a trip, we think it through many times. Every item is useful and meaningful to us.
We don’t pack that old vase that our mom’s aunt Hilda gifted us like a century ago, that we don’t even feel like belongs to us.
Life is a long journey. Pack lightly and wisely.