Trying to prove a point and overexplaining oneself is a trauma response. Did you know that?
Our ego wants to be right and wants others to be on the same page as us, when wounds of rejection are embedded in our subconscious mind. Trauma in the form of abandonment issues is very common and can show up as people pleasing or co-dependency.
Our ego protects us and knows that people need people in order to survive. Our ego thinks that a difference in opinions may separate us from our group. But, dear ego, we don’t need all the people to think the way we do.
It’s the versatility among viewpoints that makes us learn from each other and expands our world views. If people decide to abandon us because they don’t share our opinion, maybe they need to work a bit on being less judgemental or maybe they weren’t our people.
The right people will let us be who we are. They will let us have our ideas and opinions regardless if they share them or not.
So the next time you find yourself getting reactional and wanting to convince someone of your point of view, have compassion for yourself and the other. We’re all just humans trying to wrap our heads around what it means to live our life.
There are things in our life that others simply can’t fathom, because those experiences are not part of their soul’s learning curve. And that’s okay, because those are not the lessons they need in their life. We all grow differently.
Don’t take it personally if someone chooses to look at the journey in another way than you do. Don’t tell them that they are wrong. Don’t believe them when they tell you that you are wrong.
Let’s all just follow our inner truths and share from the overflow of the joy that comes from being on our own true path. Not because we need to be right, but because sharing is caring. Maybe your piece of knowledge is exactly what someone else needs to hear.