I have been co-dependent on people in my life and I thought I would suffocate without them. Ironically it’s often the other way around: It’s the co-dependent relationships that suffocate you.
Through loneliness I learnt that I am my own safe space. As humans we naturally crave and need connection, but this was my way of learning that I am the only person I can’t live without. It might sound harsh, but it doesn’t mean I don’t love or long to connect with the people around me, it just means I’m not dependent on them. It means I can love them just because I love them, not because I’m dependent on them loving me back. It makes the ego step aside and allows healthy, heartfelt connections to take place.
I used to be afraid of fully being myself, because what if people would leave me because they don’t like me? When there’s no longer any fear of losing people there’s no longer anything stopping you from being your authentic self. People will come and go, stay or wave goodbye.
The people who are in your life in this moment are the ones who are meant to be. They are your teachers and uplifters. But make sure to make yourself your greatest lover, because you are the one who will stay with you forever.
And on a deeper level everything is of course always connected and never lost.